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Here is the Christmas tree we picked out last year. (Even Myrtle, our St. Bernard, joined in.)[/caption]
We have a family tradition of snowshoeing out behind our property to find a perfect Christmas tree that we have held since we bought the place over 20 years ago. As kids have grown and times have changed, we’ve kept this tradition alive, and I anticipate we will for as long as we live here.
However, some of the family traditions that we used to enjoy just don’t fit now that we are down to a family of three living at home. At first, I was so sad about the changes because I dearly loved our traditions, but then I started looking for an opportunity to make new traditions and that has led to some really neat opportunities in the way our family celebrates all holidays, not just Christmas.
FLEXIBLE DATES
When I got married, my mom told me that she was going to start a new tradition. She opted to do the holidays on an “off day.” For instance, Thanksgiving was celebrated the Saturday following the holiday with my side of the family, so we never had to decide where to spend the day. Christmas was similar, she had me ask my in-laws if they preferred Christmas day or Christmas Eve, and she would adjust accordingly.
I thanked my mom for this several times, but she always said she did it selfishly because she wanted to be able to spend every single holiday with us and not have to rotate. I love her outlook! I have carried that tradition forward to my married kids - I hope it’s as big of a blessing to them as it was to me.
CHRISTMAS ADVENT ACROSS THE STATES
We have a daughter that lives in Iowa who can’t make the trip home for Christmas this year. Our sons also work long hours with their businesses, so I had to lower my “get together” expectations, and this year, for some reason it felt a little harder not to be able to get everyone together for things like cookie baking, sledding, and making ornaments.
Because I was feeling a bit melancholy about not seeing my crew as much as I’d like to, I decided to get proactive and start a new tradition. I found a Lego advent train and I bought one for each family, including ours. I sent one to my daughter in Iowa and gave my local kids theirs at Thanksgiving. Then I created a group chat where we each post pictures of our project from day 1-24. It has been so fun to get photos every day from each of the kids working on their projects and doing one for our home as well!
Hint: I started the group chat and named it Christmas 2023 so it’s easy to find. Next year, I’ll start a new one and name it Christmas 2024 so our memories are recorded on our phones from year to year.
ADDING FAMILY MEMBERS
As your family grows up and you add family members like in-laws and grandkids, it’s the perfect time to reevaluate your traditions, determine what works best for everyone, and embrace the changes with anticipation!
Here are some more ideas of ways to embrace the wonder of Christmas as your situation changes:
Make ornaments together for your trees so everyone has a yearly ornament. If you’re not able to get together between Thanksgiving and Christmas, make ornaments when you get together for Thanksgiving!
Incorporate some of the favorite foods of the new family members so they feel more included with your family.
Ask your kids if they have ideas of some new traditions they would like to have - that makes it special for them, too! I asked my 13 year old this year if she had any family traditions she wanted to start and she was immediately bubbling over with ideas. She made a notebook of all sorts of creativity that she wanted to implement. It was just so fun hearing her enthusiasm and wonder as she shared her ideas. Of course we are incorporating ((most)) of them!
One way to keep things special is to explain to new family members the “why” of certain traditions. For instance, we do a thing called Mother Midnight on New Year’s Eve. Mother Midnight dates way back to when my Grannie was little. Every person puts a paper plate on the table with their name on it. Then Mother Midnight would put some fruit, some nuts, and some leftover Christmas candy on the plate plus a tiny trinket type of gift. It could be a pair of gloves, batteries for a new toy, a mug with hot chocolate mix, a pair of earrings, always small, simple things. I love keeping this tradition alive in my family, and it makes new family members feel much more part of things when they realize how old this tradition is and why we do it.
EMPTY NESTERS
Although we have a 13-year-old still living at home, we are finding ourselves on our own more and more. This feels strange but I’m finding it to be a very neat time as well. Renewing our relationship has been such a special time, but we certainly have to find ways to keep the holidays special, even if it’s just the two of us. Here are a few ideas I’ve been pondering:
Take a drive to look at Christmas lights. Pack a thermos of your old favorite hot chocolate, crank up the Christmas carols, and reminisce about the younger days.
Put together surprise packages for your grown kids. Include things like the stuff to make homemade ornaments for the grandkids, cookie baking ingredients, and an advent calendar. Drop it off Secret Santa style, so they never know where it came from.
Take a vacation! If you don’t have family near you, either go visit them or go on a vacation that you have always wanted to take! Enjoy Christmas in a new state or even a different country! What an adventure!
Snuggle up and enjoy Christmas movies without interruption! Remember when your kids were young and you just wished for quiet long enough to watch just one show? Now is the time, and you’ve earned it!
On the flip side, take the grandkids and give your grown kids the chance to go do their Christmas shopping and enjoy a movie uninterrupted.
Take the grandkids shopping for their parents gifts - OR have them over to make gifts for their loved ones. What a great way to make memories while giving your grown kids a bit of a break.
MY FINAL THOUGHT
It can be hard to change traditions, especially when they are special or when it’s just something we’re used to doing. However, change is inevitable and it isn’t always bad! We get to choose our own attitude over the holiday. We can either be resistant, or we can choose to joyfully and gracefully make changes to include loved ones, new and old.
Afterall, do we really want to lose the WONDER of what the season is all about? I know I sure don’t.
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